I know that for every human being when your
father’s ways are not straight, it will bother you.
Since I sacked him from my management, he
has been struggling financially. He was stealing
from me, so I had to save my marriage and
separate business from family. TJ wants to keep
up with the Joneses, he wants to live a life that
is not true. He went to buy a car, a Mercedes
that he knew that he didn’t have the money for
it. The person kept up calling that he wants the
balance. I ended up paying the balance of over
3M. When it was time to pay, I put the money in
his account, so they don’t know I was the person
paying for it. He also bought a Rolex, and didn’t
pay the balance. They threaten to go to the
press, and to protect my name, I will have to pay
for it. He goes to clubs and leaves the tabs for
me, and I have to pay for him. He is putting us in
debt.
What set off all off this was that he went to
borrow 45 million Naira from someone and he
lost it. I just found out that EFCC was
investigating a case against him, and my brother
called me from London and confirmed it that TJ
is in deep trouble, and that some people might
hurt him, that I should be careful. In my frantic
mode to try and suppress this situation I went to
one of my big bros who can help. A week ago I
told TJ that we were running out of Jamil’s food,
but he didn’t do nothing. He complains, but cuts
his hair twice a week. I have been searching for
N45M so that they don’t kill him, so that they
EFCC does not carry him. What kind of man does
that, and says I am the one taking away his
manhood.
I walked in on TJ taking cocaine in my house in
1004 (Victoria Island, Lagos). I didn’t even know
he takes cocaine. I walked into the kitchen, and
I saw him taking cocaine, so I screamed, and
asked if that is cocaine. HE started screaming
that ‘What am I doing down here, where is the
cocaine?’ How can someone without money take
cocaine? I called his parents and complained
that I can deal with weed, but cocaine, no. So I
am dealing with his alcohol problem, you come
home late, infidelity, coaciane, bad debt,
jealousy over my success.
Before marriage, Idin’t know of his third child in
Nigeria. A lot of people warned me about him,
but I am going to say I made a mistake. At the
beginning everyone says you can’t leave the
marriage because our culture frowns on it. I
made a mistake, do I have to wait ten years, 15
years? If I am not happy. And I was scared that
if I ever find somebody else to marry me? That’s
the msiconceptions of our society. I don’t care if
I ever get married again. I care about being
happy for Jamil, I care about not walking on
eggshells. I do want a man that works, that will
help me with my financial burden. He doesn’t
have to be a millionaire or billionaire, but at
least someone that helps, and won’t put me in
more debt.
Everyday all I hear from TJ is that ‘I created you, I took
you from nothing, look at you now.
The marriage is finally over, it’s been over for a
while, and I have covered up for a while. What
happened was God-sent, and he made it easier
for me to walk away with what he did on social
media. He got so many people angrier, he pulled
so many innocent people into this. Even his
family. He made it easy for me to finally up and
walk away.
I will never stop hum from seeing Jamil, never.
Even today, Jamil is still saying ‘dadada’, and I
was saying it with him as well, that’s his first
word. I want to bring him up to be a good man.
Even till now I don’t wish anything bad on him.
As we are doing this interview, I am worried that
if he sees it, it might trigger him to do something
bad. I don’t want my son to grow up and know,
God forbid, that his father commited suicide.
Tonight, I am still gonna pray for him.
He was getting help at one point when the whole
cocaine thing came out. This has been
happening for a long time. We get him helpo and
he goes to see a doctor or a pastor, or a
counsellor and he uses his own hands to ruin
things again. If I didn’t care about him, I
wouldn’t be covering up for a lot of things. I
wouldn’t be searching for help for him. Even
now I am still searching for a way to help him
out of his debt, so that if he is out of this,
If there is anything that maybe I overlooked, or
didn’t love him enough, or made him less of a
man, then I am sorry. I am absolutely sorry…
Tunji I am sorry. But you know I tried
everything, you know I love you so much, and I
am sorry, I never wanted to divorce, and I never
wanted it to get to this. I want you to get better…
and I would always pray for you.
father’s ways are not straight, it will bother you.
Since I sacked him from my management, he
has been struggling financially. He was stealing
from me, so I had to save my marriage and
separate business from family. TJ wants to keep
up with the Joneses, he wants to live a life that
is not true. He went to buy a car, a Mercedes
that he knew that he didn’t have the money for
it. The person kept up calling that he wants the
balance. I ended up paying the balance of over
3M. When it was time to pay, I put the money in
his account, so they don’t know I was the person
paying for it. He also bought a Rolex, and didn’t
pay the balance. They threaten to go to the
press, and to protect my name, I will have to pay
for it. He goes to clubs and leaves the tabs for
me, and I have to pay for him. He is putting us in
debt.
What set off all off this was that he went to
borrow 45 million Naira from someone and he
lost it. I just found out that EFCC was
investigating a case against him, and my brother
called me from London and confirmed it that TJ
is in deep trouble, and that some people might
hurt him, that I should be careful. In my frantic
mode to try and suppress this situation I went to
one of my big bros who can help. A week ago I
told TJ that we were running out of Jamil’s food,
but he didn’t do nothing. He complains, but cuts
his hair twice a week. I have been searching for
N45M so that they don’t kill him, so that they
EFCC does not carry him. What kind of man does
that, and says I am the one taking away his
manhood.
I walked in on TJ taking cocaine in my house in
1004 (Victoria Island, Lagos). I didn’t even know
he takes cocaine. I walked into the kitchen, and
I saw him taking cocaine, so I screamed, and
asked if that is cocaine. HE started screaming
that ‘What am I doing down here, where is the
cocaine?’ How can someone without money take
cocaine? I called his parents and complained
that I can deal with weed, but cocaine, no. So I
am dealing with his alcohol problem, you come
home late, infidelity, coaciane, bad debt,
jealousy over my success.
Before marriage, Idin’t know of his third child in
Nigeria. A lot of people warned me about him,
but I am going to say I made a mistake. At the
beginning everyone says you can’t leave the
marriage because our culture frowns on it. I
made a mistake, do I have to wait ten years, 15
years? If I am not happy. And I was scared that
if I ever find somebody else to marry me? That’s
the msiconceptions of our society. I don’t care if
I ever get married again. I care about being
happy for Jamil, I care about not walking on
eggshells. I do want a man that works, that will
help me with my financial burden. He doesn’t
have to be a millionaire or billionaire, but at
least someone that helps, and won’t put me in
more debt.
Everyday all I hear from TJ is that ‘I created you, I took
you from nothing, look at you now.
The marriage is finally over, it’s been over for a
while, and I have covered up for a while. What
happened was God-sent, and he made it easier
for me to walk away with what he did on social
media. He got so many people angrier, he pulled
so many innocent people into this. Even his
family. He made it easy for me to finally up and
walk away.
I will never stop hum from seeing Jamil, never.
Even today, Jamil is still saying ‘dadada’, and I
was saying it with him as well, that’s his first
word. I want to bring him up to be a good man.
Even till now I don’t wish anything bad on him.
As we are doing this interview, I am worried that
if he sees it, it might trigger him to do something
bad. I don’t want my son to grow up and know,
God forbid, that his father commited suicide.
Tonight, I am still gonna pray for him.
He was getting help at one point when the whole
cocaine thing came out. This has been
happening for a long time. We get him helpo and
he goes to see a doctor or a pastor, or a
counsellor and he uses his own hands to ruin
things again. If I didn’t care about him, I
wouldn’t be covering up for a lot of things. I
wouldn’t be searching for help for him. Even
now I am still searching for a way to help him
out of his debt, so that if he is out of this,
If there is anything that maybe I overlooked, or
didn’t love him enough, or made him less of a
man, then I am sorry. I am absolutely sorry…
Tunji I am sorry. But you know I tried
everything, you know I love you so much, and I
am sorry, I never wanted to divorce, and I never
wanted it to get to this. I want you to get better…
and I would always pray for you.
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